Sometimes, planning a wedding can feel like little more than a long list of decisions to make and questions to answer. Where? When? How many? Who? Which?
Oft-forgotten is the most important question: why? Here’s why. Engagement leads up to marriage! And, that’s joyous. But that doesn’t mean that the pre-season isn’t overwhelming, as you juggle the expectations and opinions of those around you. Depending on how much time, money, or creativity you possess, the process can, at times, leave you feeling mentally fatigued. If during your engagement, you’ve shed tears over the decision of where to go for dinner….just know, you’re not alone.
It’s super easy to lose the forest for the trees in the planning.
I know because I had my moments. That said, your wedding is a unique opportunity to gather a group of people that you love for one of the most lasting meaningful decisions of your life, and it doesn’t matter if they eat off of cream or off-white-colored plates. Your guests are there to celebrate your commitment, to support you, to send you into your new season with assurance that you’re loved. Remembering that will serve you well as you make the little decisions that add up to the overall experience of your wedding, and allow you to be able to think about how you want to incorporate personal details into your day.
Even before I became a printer, I’ve loved having wise words posted before my eyes. Sticky notes on my computer at work, good reminders on my mirror at home, a notecard on my dashboard.
Because of that, it was important for my husband and I to feature respected voices in our lives at our wedding. Together, we selected and printed the above quotation, and left one on each guest’s dinner plate as a reminder that our wedding feast pointed to a greater reality. Dear friends and groomsmen took turns reading Scripture, praying, and singing blessings over us during our ceremony.
Our wedding menus included more words from Spurgeon, our program highlighted a quote from Dietrich Bonhoeffer. Our humid southern September also afforded us the opportunity to include some special-to-us words on hand-held paper fans.
These little details peppered the occasion with thoughtfulness—souvenirs from our day and timeless reminders. Find ways to personalize your party, it’s always a good choice.